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My “Pakistani little brother” just drove off

He called me a few hours ago and asked if he could come passed us to say “hello”. He was in Bergen to pick up (buy) a car.

I had a conversation with his oldest sister (originally my best friend before the whole family adopted me) when he called, so I had to cut the conversation short to sort the house out before his arrival.

It is a shame to say, but I have sort of lost respect for my friend as a person somehow. She has conducted herself really wrong while pursuing her attempt to find happiness. She recently married the man she has been chasing for two years, and while she ran after him she sort of abandoned her two kids. She even told her daughter (14 years of age) that she chose this man regardless of how her daughter felt about it. Her daughter had only met this man on a few occasions before she was expected to move in with him. So her daughter didn’t feel comfortable living with them so she chose to remain living with her grandparents, aunties and uncles while her eight year old son quickly adapted and joined them in their new apartment. Since the wedding she has not lifted a finger to get back the relationship she used to have with her daughter, and she has not made one attempt to bring her “home”. It is like she doesn’t care!

She has made an enormous amount of mistakes, and said some pretty disgusting things to her own family to get where she are today. She has hurt her mother and father to the maximum, and they have not been in the wrong. I have heard the story from so many angles, and the only story that doesn’t correspond with all the others is her’s.

I don’t even know how to answer anymore. As she refuse to share with me what she has done, but keeps blaming everyone else. She feels abandoned, but she is not the victim here…her daughter is. She grew up without a father, and new she feels that she has lost a mother too.

I can’t tell her that I know the “true” story and put her straight as she will attack everyone and create a tremendous amount of drama, and that is the last thing they need right now.

This situation has got me “lost for words”, and that doesn’t happen too often. I find myself rejecting her phone calls just because I can’t really talk to her without telling her what I know…but I hate seeing this friendship fall to pieces as she has been my very best friend since 2006. Her family is my family, and I hate to see how her actions have “fucked with everyone”.

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I have nothing to add to this! 😉

I have nothing to add to this! 😉

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We had a great day today. Been out and about since 11:00 this morning and didn’t return to the house until 20:15. The girls are tucked in watching a movie…

We had a great day today. Been out and about since 11:00 this morning and didn’t return to the house until 20:15. The girls are tucked in watching a movie…

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Little miss thoughtful…

Little miss thoughtful…

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Two little girls waiting for the funicular to take us down town to watch “Tall Ship Race”. New homemade dresses for the occasion.

Two little girls waiting for the funicular to take us down town to watch “Tall Ship Race”. New homemade dresses for the occasion.

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Getting rid of old things…

We have decided to stay at home today…so I took the opportunity to go out into our garage and sort through the girls various prams (push chairs). I have washed and cleaned them and have put them out for sale on the Norwegian equivalent to “Craigslist”. 

The girls are hot and sassy. So we might have to do and do something….just to get a change of habitat. 

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This little muppet was quite content getting yet another day at the beach.  (ved Hordnesskogen)

This little muppet was quite content getting yet another day at the beach. (ved Hordnesskogen)

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Yet another perfect day at the beach…different beach this time, but yet another beach I didn’t know excited. The girls have had a blast, and we also bumped into one of the little fellows that was attending the same daycare as the girls (he is starting school in August). So his mother grouped up with us and it was really nice. I also bumped into the head of my school. She was with her two kids that I am teaching. So we it was quite a social outing. 

The kids were so busy digging after things to fill their buckets. Small “baby crabs”, various sea shells and small fishes. They found loads of kids to play with, and we went swimming. The water was lovely…not cold at all. I was able to stay for half an hour inside without getting cold, and I am a chicken when it comes to cold water. I have not swam in the sea here in Norway for years….so this summer has been exceptional…so far.

On our way back home, we stopped at the agricultural school and went to see our little parrot friend “Sammy”.  He is a little “Tamimbar corella” (cockatoo) and is so social. He has both a indoor and an outdoor cage and he can go between them as he pleases. So every single time we call his name, he comes flying out to greet us, and when it is time to depart he gets really upset. He absolutely loves company, and my heart goes out for him during the summer holiday as school is over and he is stuck with only a few visits in one day. He was in great spirit today…loved his cuddles and really talkative. I wish we could just take him home with us. But he is known to be a biter (even though he never even attempted to bite us), so I am not sure I would trust him around the girls. 

No plans for tomorrow, but I should attempt to do something in the house as our big move is rapidly approaching. But when the weather is as it has been lately, it is hard to find the motivation. 

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Yet another day at the beach!

We tok it easy yesterday. I got to pack up all our books and such yesterday. And we went to my mum’s for dinner. Also got to cuddle with the kittens next doors. So now I have the usual pleads for a kitten once we get our new house. Even though I admit that they are quite cute, I am not a cat person. The new house is close to a busy road, so if we got a cat it would be one of those cats that would have to spend most of it’s life indoors, and that wouldn’t be fair on the cat…right?

Today we are meeting up with Celina, Susann and some other friends. We are headed to a new beach. This time not too far away. So I have yet again packed our begs. The girls just have to finish their breakfast and we will hit to roads.

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mommyslittlesunshine  Their very best friend from the daycare they have left behind. I am not always too happy about the friendship though. Simply because she is a complicated little girls, and say and do loads of things constantly to split the girls up. If Lilly doesn’t do exactly what she tells her to do, she turns her back to her and goes off to play with Leah, so Lilly does “everything” to please her. Leah is not that cooperative so she is not included in their game. When with this girl, Lilly turns into this little “sassy monster”. 
They look adorable in this picture, but it is not always the truth. When Lilly got told that she was to attend a new daycare after the summer holiday, her first words where: “I am so happy mum. Now I get to play with ALL the other kids without having to worry about Celina being upset!” 
Lilly is so loyal to this little girl simply because she “saved” Lilly when she was new to this daycare and everyone kept telling her that she was “too young to play”. Celina took her under her wings, and for that Lilly will forever be grateful.  

spaghetti-sauce Yes, they came home to me with that ferry boat. The couple that we rent our flat from invited them to their summer house on an island outside Bergen where we live. So she came over with the ferry boat, picked them up and took them back to their summer house. Same when she took them back to me. They DID invite me over to see their summer house and pick the girls up, but we decided it easier that she took the boat over again with them.

mommyslittlesunshine Their very best friend from the daycare they have left behind. I am not always too happy about the friendship though. Simply because she is a complicated little girls, and say and do loads of things constantly to split the girls up. If Lilly doesn’t do exactly what she tells her to do, she turns her back to her and goes off to play with Leah, so Lilly does “everything” to please her. Leah is not that cooperative so she is not included in their game. When with this girl, Lilly turns into this little “sassy monster”.
They look adorable in this picture, but it is not always the truth. When Lilly got told that she was to attend a new daycare after the summer holiday, her first words where: “I am so happy mum. Now I get to play with ALL the other kids without having to worry about Celina being upset!”
Lilly is so loyal to this little girl simply because she “saved” Lilly when she was new to this daycare and everyone kept telling her that she was “too young to play”. Celina took her under her wings, and for that Lilly will forever be grateful.

spaghetti-sauce Yes, they came home to me with that ferry boat. The couple that we rent our flat from invited them to their summer house on an island outside Bergen where we live. So she came over with the ferry boat, picked them up and took them back to their summer house. Same when she took them back to me. They DID invite me over to see their summer house and pick the girls up, but we decided it easier that she took the boat over again with them.