He called me a few hours ago and asked if he could come passed us to say “hello”. He was in Bergen to pick up (buy) a car.
I had a conversation with his oldest sister (originally my best friend before the whole family adopted me) when he called, so I had to cut the conversation short to sort the house out before his arrival.
It is a shame to say, but I have sort of lost respect for my friend as a person somehow. She has conducted herself really wrong while pursuing her attempt to find happiness. She recently married the man she has been chasing for two years, and while she ran after him she sort of abandoned her two kids. She even told her daughter (14 years of age) that she chose this man regardless of how her daughter felt about it. Her daughter had only met this man on a few occasions before she was expected to move in with him. So her daughter didn’t feel comfortable living with them so she chose to remain living with her grandparents, aunties and uncles while her eight year old son quickly adapted and joined them in their new apartment. Since the wedding she has not lifted a finger to get back the relationship she used to have with her daughter, and she has not made one attempt to bring her “home”. It is like she doesn’t care!
She has made an enormous amount of mistakes, and said some pretty disgusting things to her own family to get where she are today. She has hurt her mother and father to the maximum, and they have not been in the wrong. I have heard the story from so many angles, and the only story that doesn’t correspond with all the others is her’s.
I don’t even know how to answer anymore. As she refuse to share with me what she has done, but keeps blaming everyone else. She feels abandoned, but she is not the victim here…her daughter is. She grew up without a father, and new she feels that she has lost a mother too.
I can’t tell her that I know the “true” story and put her straight as she will attack everyone and create a tremendous amount of drama, and that is the last thing they need right now.
This situation has got me “lost for words”, and that doesn’t happen too often. I find myself rejecting her phone calls just because I can’t really talk to her without telling her what I know…but I hate seeing this friendship fall to pieces as she has been my very best friend since 2006. Her family is my family, and I hate to see how her actions have “fucked with everyone”.