Three is a crowd

Leah pointed out the “bullies”.

I just exited the meeting at daycare, and met with Lilly and Leah outside. They were both so proud to have me there and share some time with me. And my departure was kind of sad as Lilly broke down crying, but I really need to head over for the last day of my workshop. 7 weeks have come towards the end.

But finally Leah broke the silence and pointed out the two girls that have been bullying her, and I made her point them out to the staff as well. So I know they will have a conversation with those two girls during the day.

It kind of surprised me as I had expected “the bullies” to be older girls, but these two looked no older then 4 years of age. And I have had quite a few really good conversations with the mother of one of the girls, and she is such a sweetheart.

I am tempted to approach this mum and tell her about it. But I don’t know if that is the right thing to do. So I need advice!!!

I know that I would very much like to know if either of my girls were making life difficult for anyone.

So a few advises would be helpfull.

It’s Friday…

Every single Friday the radio that wakes me up in the morning plays “opa opa” with “Antique”. It is a great start to our weekend together. The three of us all curled up in my bed, singing and doing a little dance as we snuggle up next to each other.

The girls are currently having breakfast while watching children’s morning TV. Leah demanded smoked salmon for breakfast, and I was lucky enough to have some on the fridge.

She demanded the same as a evening snack last night, and my mum looked at me like “are you going to give in to that”? In my mum’s head smoked salmon is something extravagant. Sure it is pretty expensive, but it is healthy as well…right! Loads of healthy fish fat…so why shouldn’t I give in to her wish. She loves it! Whenever I give them both an option to pick something for their packed breakfasts at daycare, Leah picks smoked salmon or an expensive ham or something. Lilly prefer some salami, pâté or peanut butter. But peanut butter is off limits on daycare as one of the kids is super allergic.

I am headed up to daycare with the girls today for a meeting with the staff. So the girls are excited for me to join them.

Wish everyone a fantastic Friday!

Leah is demanding her independence these days…

She is normally really sweet natured, but the last few days she has expressed a few sassy sides…

Today as we returned home after Lilly’s dentist appointment, I gathered all our stuff from the trunk of the car. As we were walking towards the house, Lilly demanded her pencil back. She got to pick two prizes for being such a good girl at the dentist. The dentist had a big box of prizes, and of all the things there Lilly picked two pencils (as if we don’t have enough of them at home). She was kind enough to let Leah have one of them while we were in the car, but as we got out she demanded it back.

My mum tried to convince her to let Leah keep it, but I went against it. Lilly got them because she was such a good girl while at the dentist. I know Leah got jealous, and she even pretended to fall over as we left her office just so that I had to take her back.

Why should Lilly be forced to give up her prize simply because she has a twin sister? Life isn’t always fair, and I just sort of wanted this to be a “lesson”. Next time it might be Leah getting a prize while Lilly have to watch in ave. I even thought about asking the dentist for a prize for Leah as we left, but thought against it. What would be Leah’s lesson from that…

So Leah had a big tantrum as we exited the car. She stamped her feet and yelled:

“I am not coming home with you guys. I am staying here all night!”

We were just about to cross the road, and I simply told her that I would miss her tremendously if she didn’t came home with me. Her reply was:

“I don’t care!”

I kept on urging her to join me. Promised to look for something for her to have when we got inside, tried to tell her that she would be pretty cold if she chose to spend the night outside. I asked her to cross the road with me, and since she is pretty scared of moving cars, she agreed. But I couldn’t get her to walk up the pathway to our house. I even asked her if she wanted me to go inside and fetch her some warm cloths so that she wouldn’t get cold during the night. She declined every single one of my offers.

I just left her there and sat outside in the sun waiting for her to change her mind. I could see her sneaking up towards the house, but the minute either of us acknowledged her, she spun around and ran back down.

At one point she came all the way up because she had found a pacifier in a bush. She came to show it to me. Out of spite I had to ask her if she was done being angry with us. Her response was immediate:

“NO”, but she couldn’t hide her smile. She ran back down again to the very beginning of the pathway.

We all got really tired of this game. So I asked Lilly if she would consider going down and offer one of the pencils to Leah if she agreed to come join us. Lilly went down and came back up with Leah but still holding on to both pencils. So I asked Lilly if Leah had refused her offer. Lilly’s answer puzzled me:

“I told her that she could have it as soon as she came home with me.”

My clever little girl. As they reached the top of the pathway and entered our garden, Lilly handed over the pencil.

Things take time…often much more then one expect!

Leah’s new game…

Leah: Muuuumy (yelled in an angry voice).
Me: Yes, what is the matter?
Leah: I am so sorry for yelling at you. That wasn’t very nice of me.

End of game…repeat after a few minutes.

Dentist appointment…

…today went fine. They took pictures of both her upper and lower teeth, and it looked fine. She did ask us to come back in August though for a check up.

Lilly was such a trouper. I had to hold her hand while they took her picture, but after that she sat in the dentist chair all by herself.

The dentist was clever as well. She really knew how to connect with her, and she were also more then content with Lilly’s “dental work”. Even though we forgot to brush her teeth this morning, she said that we did a great job with the toothbrush. So happy I invested in electrical toothbrush for them when they were about a year old. It has been a life saver!

Nobody is perfect, and perfect is boring.

chaosopher said: Exactly! I love that saying :) My mum always told me, “If you’re going to do something then do it right!” but I like that other one a lot better as it accepts human nature and flaw but reminds us all that we are all really aiming for the same xxxx

My mum used the same quote as your mum did, and I somehow agree with it. But who are to define what is “right”? Sometimes we might even be clueless to what is “the right thing to do”. If you did right or wrong, might not even apear straight away. Sometimes you will have to wait and see if what you set out to do was right or wrong.

Not everything in life is “written” in black or white. You might have the best of intentions, and then acknowledge that you acted wrongly and then you might have the worse of intentions and see that it turned out for the best. So life is hard regardless of age, and we all have to deal with the consequenses of our choices.

I think it is important to meet people where they are right here and right now. I totally agree that everybody has their flaws, but we should all aspire to be the best of what we can be. I don’t take lightly on people that justefy their mistakes by stating: “This is who I am and that is something I can’t change!”. Everybody has the ability for change, but working with our own personality is probably the hardest job in the world. But we all have it in us to be better…to move forward and develope in a pisitive direction. No one is beond “repear”.